For several months at this point, I seem to be saying the same thing to various people in my life… and while each conversation is slightly different, different situations to different people, business to personal, acquaintances to friends to family the thoughts that I have are basically the same.
The simple statement is, “What you eat, don’t make me shit.” Yes, I believe I just quoted Jay-Z. But others have said it in various ways before him.
What you do in your world does not “make” me do anything. Whatever I do is a decision that I make. I may make it with much thought, I may make it in haste, but it is my decision that I must own.
With that being said… allowing someone’s words or actions put you in a reactive state or take you away from who you know yourself to be, does not give you the right to place the blame on them. If they are wrong, let. them. be. wrong. all. by. them.selves. If you don’t want to be a reactive person put on your big girl panties or big boy drawers and own the fact that this person has power over you. Yes, I said it.
When you blame others for your actions, you give them power. They define you. You are allowing their behavior govern your action.
Make a decision. Redefine boundaries, which could mean that you remove them from your life entirely. This could be a dog, a job or a significant other… it doesn’t matter. Make a decision and own it.
(Yes, I know that themselves is one word, working with the syllables here folks. Stay with me. )