What is the deal?

I’ve missed you all, not sooo much, but a whole bunch!!! So, I’ve come to drop a few tidbits.

What is the deal?

1. I’ve been MIA! Well, not really, but I haven’t been posting too much lately. I bop in and out of fb and twitter trying to keep in touch with everyone and I miss our conversations. The deal is… that I’m building a new website and it’s a learning experience. There  have been some good breakthroughs Like when finally figured out how I wanted to structure the site. Some bad The point in which I wanted to throw my computer across the dining room table because I spent 4 days building a page that I inevitably had to delete. And you know… there’s always primary thoughts. Me trying to keep that balance somewhere between the two. But, with all that being said I hope to be up and writing consistently in September! Whoo-hoo!! Yay!!!
2. Now, I don’t get this one. Here’s the deal and this is strictly from a woman’s point of view. I’ve noticed that when women enter their 30′s and they have little relationship experience and/or few prospects for entering into a long-term committed relationship they start lowering their standards. Seems they think they may be too picky and they literally get out their list and take a red pen to it. Scary!

   Others on the other hand. Well, me in this case. I’ve spent the majority of my time in relationships. I must have “relationship woman” branded across my extremities, except that my brand also glows in the dark and emits relationship pheromones. I’m winning the battle these days though. As much as I think and talk about relationships, I’ve effectively avoided the draft.

   Anyway, we will get to that later. Back to my 2nd point. I’m just the opposite. With each experience, I ADD to my list of must have’s and then I have the following conversation with my “self” and the Lord. My good thoughts are reflective… “Aww, he was a nice person… from him I need to add x, y & z to my list.” Then, a wave of bad thoughts cross over me… “Lord, how the h-e-double-hockey-sticks are you going to create him? You know you are making this really hard on yourself and torturing me in the process!” But, primarily I settle into not worrying about it. If it happens I will be ecstatic. If it doesn’t I will be the super-producer of a magnificent list of man traits and keep on living. Who’s in worse shape though? The women with forever lowering standards or myself?

3. And then I have another deal or let say story (cliff-notes style): Man and woman meet. Man expresses an interest in woman. Woman states she’s not available. Man hangs back and waits, then eventually disappears. The relationship the woman was in ends. Months pass. Man and woman cross paths. Man inquires and woman advises the relationship ended. Man is “some kind of way” about not being advised. I won’t quantify what “some kind of way” means, because at this point I’m still tallying the results. The range is very interesting though. We’ll see. Might be a post some day. To my last point or actually question…

   Why do men feel like if at any point they expressed any level of interest implied or direct that the woman is required to make a press release once her circumstances have changed? Where did this rule come from? And what women do this? I guess celebs do, but whatever. Do men read that many tabloids where they think this is the new standard? I think is asinine. Have any of you experienced this? Or have you ever called an acquaintance after your relationship is over to see what’s up?