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Comment on “The Anatomy of Love” by Bill

Bill — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 04:55:08 +0000

Really film is the presentation of some one�s feelings; it offers the lesson to the viewers.

Comment on The “F” Bomb by Jermaine

Jermaine — Mon, 14 Nov 2011 17:26:47 +0000

Definitely an honest and important topic! I think sometimes we mistake the nervousness we feel exploring the unknown as fear as we let it get a negative grip on us and it manifests itself as a negative feeling. Its like if you are about to get into a fight and your heart starts beating fast and you begin to tremble, that’s not necessarily fear its adrenaline. If you percieve it as fear it will take hold and you have already lost b/c you are thinking you are scared of the person. That nervousness one feels when exploring love and relationships is in many ways similar. It’s how we deal with them. It’s not necessarily fear, it’s the wonder of the unknown. A new love doesn’t come with a rulebook and instructions, it just comes. I have known many that let that “fear” stand in the way rather than just letting go and enjoying the ride. You just have to jump. Play the game, be open to new and wonderful possibilities, and pack your parachute…

Comment on What is the deal? by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Thu, 08 Sep 2011 19:45:53 +0000

Lydia!!! Okay, so I didn’t have anything to say or add. Love that you’re here though. Thank you bunches

Comment on What is the deal? by Lydia Shaw

Lydia Shaw — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 21:57:19 +0000

Mel I can’t say I have done any of the above but I can say that when things did not go well in my relationship I stayed connected to people that care about me. (this may be the same thing) Women have to strive to become as successful in love as we do in our careers. I know for me I had to learn how to love my self unconditionally. If I can’t love me, then it is impossible to love him. I now put physicial and emotional at the top of my list and for me that meant learning how to say no to everyone else’s list.

Comment on Portfolio by Kelvinbushan

Kelvinbushan — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 14:26:54 +0000

Love the work. Excellent !!!!! Kelvinbushan

Comment on What is the deal? by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 15:26:57 +0000

Too funny, but too true. Life is relative.

Comment on What is the deal? by Klarque Garrison

Klarque Garrison — Thu, 01 Sep 2011 15:15:17 +0000

Great blog “quite interesting and funny at the same time”! I wish i could say i know what men want…but heck…I don’t even know what i want most of the times

Comment on What is the deal? by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 19:05:36 +0000

Yeah, but that takes time… God forbid a man invests time & then he remains in the friend category. As time passes, I’m learning more and more about those men around me – the true friends, the waiting to flip it friends, the acquaintances that are saying foul, it’s amazing what continues to unfold.

Comment on What is the deal? by Perfect Gentleman (@The_Loyalist)

Perfect Gentleman (@The_Loyalist) — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 18:41:09 +0000

My answer to your question is Men often miss one key component…”Cultivating a friendship”…. Something that is definitely needed if you ever went there in the 1st place… with that in place he would have known.

Comment on Abusive Relationships: Thank you to everyone for your love & support by Ex Back

Ex Back — Mon, 08 Aug 2011 21:56:56 +0000

Alright, so a lot happend between me and my ex boyfriend since we broke up (about a month ago). He didnt talk to me, and i thought it was a pride thing and i sitll think it is. Anyway, just recently like this week we finally started talking and getting closer. Just last night for the first time we were talking on msn, and my ex bestfriend (biggest bitch ever because she tried to do many things with my ex boyfriend when i wasnt over him yet and she thought it was ok!!!?) and he told me nothing was happening between them and there never will be. He understands completly why i dislike her and he sais its ok because the same thing happend to me with on of his ex bestfriends that was trying to get with me so he understands the pain. Anyway, last night he told me “honestly if i ever got a chance with a girl like you dont you think icould get atleast a bit better then that.” i was in shock! before he left that night, he told me he was still in love with me and left. I told my friend today at school about it and he found out that i told someone and he was very dispointed/mad but he continued to tell me he wasnt? HES SO CONFUSING!. so i talked to him, in person and he told me he regreted saying what he said and he would talk to me later. so i left.. does my ex still love me. or is he just saying things.. he doesnt know it, but i still love him with all of my heart.. i would take a bullet for him any day. . . please help !. thanks. Also, he told me he didnt talk to me for a long time because it was fear of what i would say after the way he broke up with me and acted..

Comment on Mel on Survive365 Radio “The Conversation” by Klarque Garrison

Klarque Garrison — Wed, 27 Jul 2011 19:19:32 +0000

We certainly are looking forward to having you on our show!!! See you then!

Comment on From My Father’s Knee by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Mon, 25 Jul 2011 18:01:18 +0000

Thanks AspiringOptimist! And I love that you thought to check my first post, not everyone does that. I hope you enjoy it over here. New stuff very soon!

Comment on From My Father’s Knee by aspiringoptimist

aspiringoptimist — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 20:40:15 +0000

Hi, I linked onto your blog from “themostinterestingmanintheworld” and, barring a clear idea of where to start, I figured “why not just go back to the beginning” so that as I read up on you, I can watach your last 2 years of growth and development in one accelerated burst (over the next week or so ) ). I think you have a lot to offer the world and I liked your dramatic clip; very believable, good range and appropriate emotional pitch

Comment on Jake Troth’s New Album – Friends! by Lydia Shaw

Lydia Shaw — Sun, 10 Jul 2011 02:31:56 +0000

I just finish listening to it, I like it… Its differant

Comment on Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? by TheMostInterestingManintheWorld

TheMostInterestingManintheWorld — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 03:27:46 +0000

I don’t really believe in people changing. I think that who we are, the motivations, the character, the core parts of our being are the same from the day we’re born till the day we die. What changes is our ability and desire to subject those core parts of ourselves to whatever we decide to subject them to; be it society, a lover, a spouse or a close friend. Who we are is who we are…

Comment on Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? by ThugNerd~Lav Lenny

ThugNerd~Lav Lenny — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 18:59:12 +0000

LOL…

Comment on Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 18:52:18 +0000

Even the medical community hasn’t figured out Schizophrenia. I think I’ll stick with simple stuff like the word change… lol.

Comment on Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? by ThugNerd~Lav Lenny

ThugNerd~Lav Lenny — Wed, 06 Jul 2011 18:32:00 +0000

Change definition, to make the form, nature, content, future course, etc., of ( something) different from what it is or from what it would be if left alone: …I agree, an Increase in knowledge and wisdom causes your soul to expand, and helps you make more informed decisions. You will always be uniquely YOU, but you also have the awesome ability to re-invent yourself and yet still be YOU. Now i’m thinking about Schizophrenia… what happens there…

Comment on Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? by Man In The Mirror: Do you believe in change? (via From My Father’s Knee) « Malagaaunike's Blog

Wed, 06 Jul 2011 14:27:36 +0000

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Comment on The Sandpit by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 20:32:07 +0000

You know maybe that’s what’s missing for some kids today… seeing a relative literally kill something with their bare hands. I’m sure that sent some sort of subliminal message… lol.

Comment on The Sandpit by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 20:28:53 +0000

Now that you say that, I’ve heard that before. I can’t imagine no snakes, just sounds weird.

Comment on The Sandpit by 6-26-2011 Dream Fragment Snake Eats Another Snake « John Jr's WordPress Blog

Sun, 26 Jun 2011 17:19:09 +0000

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Comment on The Sandpit by Invisible Man

Invisible Man — Sat, 25 Jun 2011 21:02:09 +0000

Irritating tag-along? Growing up with 3 older brothers I think I qualify! But then with 3 younger brothers I was able pass some of the things I had to endure on to them!

Even after spending, like you, a lot of my youth in the south, Atmore Alabama to be specific, I never feared the snakes. I’m telling my age when I say this BUT, I feared the outhouse, a standing or leaning structure I should say, more.

That and dinner. Watching my Grandmother do her thing with a chicken scared me for many years.

But those and many other memories of summer in the south I’ll hold onto forever.

New to the blog, I like it and we’ll stop thru every now and then.

Comment on The Sandpit by Karyn @ kloppenmum

Karyn @ kloppenmum — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 22:54:47 +0000

Thank heavens there are no snakes in New Zealand. I couldn’t cope. Even a little bit. Yikes.

Comment on Scared to Dream by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 16:13:49 +0000

Thank you! I get what you are saying. I think many of us do as you described. If we don’t dream too big, we won’t be too disappointed when we don’t make those dreams reality.

Comment on The Sandpit by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Thu, 23 Jun 2011 15:47:26 +0000

That’s funny, cuz I hadn’t ever heard my Granddaddy cuss until he looked at me and said, “Damn, city kids.” And you call me country… lol. And I knew plenty of boys that swore Wheaties and Air Jordan’s was the winning combination… lol.

Comment on The Sandpit by The Well Respected and Travelled Dr. J

The Well Respected and Travelled Dr. J — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 22:42:32 +0000

Country girl!

But i’m not afraid of a snake but what I will say about this is that:
WE NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT THE WHEATIES THING! That’s so true it was just unfrosted flakes with great athletes on the front. Nothing more, nothing less.

I used to really be fascinated with snakes until one day I came up on a controlled environment and a snake trying to get back to freedom. Stupid ass camp tried to take a garter snake out in a viewing during BSA camp, and lost hold and the snake went running for the exit of the cabin. But it must have been the size of a studio apartment and we’re all in there and this snake is looking for anyway out. People are flying every whicha way. But it’s other snakes in this cabin too in cages, so we don’t know what to do or where to run and this snake was fast. The fear of the kids and the snake’s fear was just a horrible experience and after that I didn’t like to see any snakes outside their cage.

Comment on Scared to Dream by It would start with M

It would start with M — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 21:11:57 +0000

Aww scared ti dream…I totally understand. Or maybe I don’t. To me it means you are scared to dream things, typically big things, because then you’ll have to go after them and if you go after them and get them what will you do?
That’s my definition because that was kind of how I lived my life. Never thinking too big, of course you didn’t want to jinx it, and then there was the thought that it was ridiculous for me coming from where I do after the life I have lived to have that thought, and then came the fear…fear that it was possible and that if it happened what would I do next?
unfortunately, I still edit some of my dreams. I haven’t fully opened up to them. But I dream, and then those dreams turn to goals, and I can see myself reaching them now.

Don’t be scared of your own power. Once you own it, let it fill you and be thankful for it.

Comment on If you don’t know… it’s so much more than the physical by André Brock

André Brock — Tue, 21 Jun 2011 03:11:29 +0000

Good stuff. Appreciate your perspective…enjoy your writing style.

Comment on Word of the Day: Faith by Karyn @ kloppenmum

Karyn @ kloppenmum — Mon, 20 Jun 2011 23:10:33 +0000

I so like your comment about epiphanys – so true. I recently went through a whole series – bang, bang, bang in a row – and ended up feeling incredibly raw. One day at a time is indeed, often, the only way to go.

Comment on If you don’t know… it’s so much more than the physical by Obsession « Petchary's Blog

Obsession « Petchary's Blog — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 03:23:38 +0000

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Comment on Why not just blog about it? Who are you? by Any 10 on Tuesday with @PrimaryThoughts | max-logic

Any 10 on Tuesday with @PrimaryThoughts | max-logic — Tue, 14 Jun 2011 04:02:43 +0000

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Comment on Word of the Day: Disgruntled by Karyn @ kloppenmum

Karyn @ kloppenmum — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 23:42:34 +0000

Love that you used cuss words and mentioned God in the same post. Juxtaposition makes life interesting.

Comment on Is there a difference? Cussing and Cursing by Word of the Day: Disgruntled | From My Father's Knee

Word of the Day: Disgruntled | From My Father's Knee — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 23:39:45 +0000

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Comment on Word of the Day: Insatiable by Word of the Day: Disgruntled | From My Father's Knee

Word of the Day: Disgruntled | From My Father's Knee — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 21:32:01 +0000

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Comment on Abusive Relationships: Thank you to everyone for your love & support by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Tue, 31 May 2011 18:28:43 +0000

Thank you Karyn! I appreciate you taking the time.

Comment on Abusive Relationships: Thank you to everyone for your love & support by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Tue, 31 May 2011 18:27:00 +0000

Thank you for taking the time to reach out about this series. I do hope it somehow makes an impact.

Comment on Abusive Relationships: Thank you to everyone for your love & support by primarythoughts

primarythoughts — Tue, 31 May 2011 14:53:20 +0000

No problem at all and thank you for continuing to be so supportive.

Comment on Abusive Relationships: Thank you to everyone for your love & support by Lydia Shaw

Lydia Shaw — Tue, 31 May 2011 04:35:48 +0000

I have not writen in a long time Mel, so busy with work and getting ready to go out of the country. This story has me crying so hard, it also explains why you never really said much when I told you about Cobham’s ex-wife story. I just finish helping her with her shoe drive for the children in Ghana, I wish you and her could talk, she can learn alot from you and maybe she can let go of some of her pain. Thank you so much for sharing this story.

Comment on The Blue-Green Laundry Baskets by Kevin Bustad

Kevin Bustad — Sun, 29 May 2011 14:08:45 +0000

Amazing job