“So are you going to jump off a bridge, just because your friends do?” I know we’ve all heard this before and most would like to say at this point “as adults” that we no longer follow the crowd. We some intelgant inpendint enviduels, right?
Well, I have to ask a question in regards to dating and relationships.
I have heard women say, many times, “he’s not just sleeping with me, so what do I owe him… or he’s not committed to me, so I’ll sleep with whomever I want…” I’ve actually heard a couple of men say this, too.
When I hear these type of comments, I hear my momma sound off that old saying. And… I understand that you don’t want to commit to someone who isn’t committed to you. I get that, but what about the commitment to yourself? For some sex is sex, but I see it on so many different levels. At its most basic – you are giving someone authority over your body. How does “he does what he does, so ima do what I do” ever factor into this decision process?
If you know someone who has these views or you’ve said this before yourself, are you really saying that because he lays down with multiple partners that you do to? Or is it pride talking? And if it’s pride, have you really thought about how this sounds? It’s kinda contradictory to self-worth, really. Because he doesn’t value his, you don’t value yours… so you’re proud to devalue yourself? I just don’t get it.
